Love Advice From a Video Crew
Love advice dispensed by young, single or divorced people has always made us laugh.
How could someone who has not been in a long-term relationship, or a divorcee, offer any profound love advice?
And then the years added up and we realized that after more than three decades of living, playing and working together, we now have the authority and track record to share some of our own love advice to those who are searching for love and unable to find their soulmate. So here are just a few of our tips to help you in this worthy journey of Finding Love.
Ten “Commandments” of Love
#1 – Know yourself. This sounds simple but in reality, those of us who have finally found ourselves climbed up mountains and crawled through valleys full of brambles to finally realize who we are. Books that have benefited me in my search for the self were: “Artist’s Way” and “Vein of Gold” by Julia Cameron, “Illusions” by Richard Bach and “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle.
#2 – Be yourself. Once you know who you are, pull out all the stops and practice being yourself. Do not be concerned about what others will think about it. The true you is a loving being, so be that loving being. You will not be ready to meet your soulmate until you know and love yourself.
#3 – Do what makes you happy. As long as you do not confine yourself to your bedroom, you will meet your soulmate in the course of doing what you enjoy, so go out into the world and do something you have never done before. See a ballet, go watch the local soccer league play their matches, enjoy exploring a local brewery. And once you are in a new and interesting venue, strike up a conversation with someone intriguing.
#4 – Always communicate. So now you have met “the one.” Continue to learn more about each other by communicating. Do you enjoy the same things? Do you share the same philosophies on religion, politics, having children, etc.? This is the kind of information that needs to be shared at the beginning and not years down the road when it is much more difficult to extricate yourself from a relationship that is not right for you.
#5 – Do not keep secrets from each other. Invariably the secrets you keep are going to come out and then it is really going to hurt both of you. Better to keep the slate clean from the very beginning.
#6 – Tell your soulmate every day that you love them. Not a day should go by without a declaration of love, a few kisses, a bunch of hugs and some cuddles. A love note in a place where your soulmate will find it will always brighten their day (and yours).
#7 – The couple who plays together stays together. Maybe you like mountain biking and she doesn’t. Maybe she likes Karaoke and you don’t. Find some common ground where you can share as many moments together as possible. Take her on a hike to a destination with waterfalls or a beautiful view. Bring a picnic and a bottle of wine. Go to a special restaurant and when making reservations, request the most romantic table in the place. Learn a new sport together. The meaning of love is to be together as much as you can.
#8 – Never go to bed angry. It’s okay and even recommended to take a “time out” from a heated argument. Be the first to apologize about the argument, even if you don’t think it was your fault. Be the first to say “I am sorry, I love you, let’s not argue.” And then prepare for best makeup sex ever!
#9 – Make plans for future fun. Literally mark your calendar with dinners at a new restaurant, dancing at a local club, signing up for a local cooking class. If your place is big enough, have a party and invite all your friends. There is always a reason to celebrate.
#10 – Be confident in your love. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Everybody gets weird about looking in the mirror and seeing the gray hairs and wrinkles. When you are committed to being together, none of that matters. You see right past the flesh and into the inner beauty. We are here for a very brief moment in time. So enjoy your time together, while you can. How fortunate will you be to watch each other grow old together!
Patty Mooney is a Vice President, Video Producer and Editor at San Diego’s award-winning video production company, Crystal Pyramid Productions.